All About Me - Primary · Resources

Spring Fever, our primary school programme is set for a big change as it becomes All About Me…

You may be aware that we have been supporting schools to deliver the Spring Fever programme across the county for over 5 years and it has been well received by schools, parents, and most importantly the children. All about me

In September we are set to have over 100 schools running the programme across all year groups from reception to year 6. However, any programme that has been running for a length of time needs a spring clean… 

We are pleased to announce we have just updated the entire programme, which will be available for all existing schools to deliver from September.

The most obvious change will be the name.  We will be dropping the confusing title of Spring Fever and replacing it with All About Me.the gang

The new programme will still be based on the same ethos and evidence that supported the old Spring Fever material; however, we have the opportunity to incorporating much of the learning and evidence we have accumulated over the last five years.

Indeed, we have tied in much stronger links and reinforcement of the Key Messages from Warwickshire’s Protective Behaviours – Taking Care Programme and the NSPCC Pants rules.

The most exciting development will be a website especially designed to support parents and carers. Here they will find information about the programme, including information on every lesson delivered, samples of resources, as well as a section of FAQ to offer advice and to help answer their children’s questions, plus a list of helpful books.

Despite the fact the programme is a relationships and sex education programme, there is still very little ‘sex’ in the programme – and these lessons are surrounded by information around healthy relationships, self-esteem and emotional literacy. Indeed, one key change we have made is that all the lessons are pupil led, ensuring that children are only told the information they are ready for.

Finally, we know that by giving children this information, building on simple messages, year after year we can ensure that children grow up safe, with healthy relationships, better able to manage their emotions and most importantly to ask for help when they feel they need it.

To find out more click here

Ethics/Attitudes · Resources

What are your Sexual Values…?

A few months ago I read a fantastic article by the wonderful Cindy Gallop  – it was part of a larger piece asking a variety of experts in their fields, what essential life lessons were missing from young people’s education, and what did they wish they had been taught in school.  Her answer was something that I had never really considered before – despite what I spend my days discussing…

“Young people should be taught about sexual values”.

In the article Cindy spoke of the fact our parent’s and teachers bring us up to have good manners, a work ethic, a sense of accountability – however this never extends to the bedroom… I wonder why this is…

“Empathy, sensitivity, respect, kindness, generosity and honesty are just as important values when it comes to sex as they are when it comes to an other area of our lives and work where we are actively taught to exercise those values”. This is a really interesting point of view, especially considering all the discussions these days around rape culture, sexual harassment and banter…

However, if we openly promote good sexual values, and good sexual behaviours as a matter of course – in the same way we encourage young people to hold open doors for others, to share, or to simply say please and thank you…  In no time at all, they can quickly become standards of behaviour and will undermine the negative attitudes that underpin rape culture.

Ever since reading this article this is a question I make a point of asking the young people I work with, and it opens up amazing conversations – once they get over the initial confusion about what you are talking about. I have had a number of conversations around pleasure, risk, responsibility, what sex means, and what they want or are looking for from the sex they are having.

(Below: whiteboard brainstorm of a groups sexual values…)

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Unfortunately, when it comes to sex we are often very quick to take our clothes off without always thinking about what we want or what we need. Even if we have thought these ideas through by ourselves, we are rarely brave enough to talk them through with any potential partners. That would be far too embarrassing…?!?

But just think about the possible conversations it opens up:

Whose responsibility is your pleasure? Is it your’s or their’s?  Should they be held accountable if you don’t enjoy yourself, especially if you haven’t told them what you like…?

What about risk? If you catch an STI from a partner whose responsibility is that…?  What about pregnancy?

What does sex mean… do you have to be in love? Is it about fun & pleasure or is it an expectation of your relationship…?

What about respect? Can you treat someone equally respectfully if the encounter is a one night stand apposed to a long term relationship…? of course you can.

Thinking about what our sexual values are should be a key starting point in our conversations with young people… so start asking and encouraging young people to develop their bedroom manners, not just their table manners!

Resources · Training

Foundation Training Video

Thank you to all the professionals that attended Thursdays training course in Bulkington. We hope you all had fun and took a lot from the course.

You should receive an email in the next few days with a password to allow you access to the course material here on the site. In the meantime, here is the video of the teenage bedroom scene we watched as promised… it is called Screwball:

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https://www.truetube.co.uk/v5/embed/f077f05d-ca40-4db2-b78d-383d4b5260cd

Don’t for get to book on to the next course “It’s only Banter” click here for more details…